Wanna know why?
Because New Year's Resolutions are another form of procrastination.
There's no reason to wait until the 1st of January when you can already take action in November, or earlier.
NYRs are the only form of procrastination that find broad acceptance in modern society. They're even welcomed with open arms.
That's because society loves talk. Talk talk talk and no action.
Not sticking out on one's NYRs is actually part of the agreement. Have you ever watched how people react when someone sticks to their resolution for several months, or even years?
Let me tell you, lots of them react with furrowed brows and sceptical stares. Not because they're bad people, but because the unspoken agreement of "We all fail our New Year's Resolutions" has been broken.
Decimated. Boom.
Why does this matter?
It confronts people with their own hurt ego.
"I couldn't stick to my own resolutions. I wasn't even seriously considering sticking to them!"
And here comes someone who was very serious about them and took action in the real world.
That brings up feelings of inadequacy. Insecurity. Failure.
And ultimately resentment for people who broke the agreement.
If you ask me, I have zero interest in such dynamics. And if you're reading this, some part of you is nodding along.
(Why else would this topic even interest you if not, right?)
So aside from being an unspoken contract of mutual defeat, NYRs are also inauthentic. 99.9% of them are egoic projections such as,
"I want to join the gym to get validation from the opposite sex!"
"I want to start a business and become successful, so then everyone will love and envy me!"
"I want to find a partner and finally feel desirable and not lonely anymore!"
Usually people only say the first part outloud. And taking those actions is great, viewed by themselves! What trips people up is the goal.
When your mind has a specific outcome in mind, there'll be trouble. Because things aren't about taking action anymore. They're about how quickly you'll reach that unspoken goal and "become happy".
And because that mindset annihilates any chance of reception or creation or opening, people become frustrated and ditch their NYRs.
And then laugh about it over drinks whilst feeling deeply disappointed in themselves.
Not fun.
So how do we find a better way?
First, let this sink in:
Any New Year's Resolution you can think of right now, can be realized right now. No need to wait until next year.
Next, question the reason for your resolutions. What do they serve? What are your motivations? Do you have a specific goal? If so, let go of them.
How do your resolutions feel now? What if getting jacked doesn't give you the validation you crave? What if your new business doesn't find traction fast? What if you don't find your dream spouse after three dates?
Do you feel contracted and tight?
Then that resolution might not be the true next step for you.
Do you feel open and excited anyway? Are you interested in trying and seeing where things might go?
Then go ahead and have that experience!
See, I'm not here to tell you what to do or not do.
I'm here to encourage you to feel into your body. The more you do, the easier you'll be able to know where you're supposed to go next.
And that's really it.
That one next step.
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